Sheasby Sheasby

Balancing Chaos & Order

08:00ish: Start Again

Wake up

Write down dream/s & dream symbol exercise

Brainstorm on MIQ (Most Important Question I wrote down the night before. This mornings’ was “what makes me feel most free?”)

Rockpool swim (Cold shower if tide is too crazy - Mother Nature occasionally says “please respect me & give me space today, Michael”)

Coffee

Breathing - 1x round of Wim Hoff to help shift my physiology & focus on what’s actually important to me

Journal - Clarify Purpose, 3x thankful for, 3x opportunities for, 3x most important tasks for the day

09:30ish: Conscious Content

Walk out the door & travel to work

I use this time to listen to an audiobook or podcast that helps me progress in a desired direction 

10:30ish: Deep Work #1

Practice, Writing, Coaching or Meeting

This might be at the library, outside on the headland, a cafe, a colleagues’ studio, or a friend’s office space

13:00ish: Nutrition & Rest

Eat good food

Maybe 15min siesta 

14:30ish: Deep Work #2

Practice, Writing, Coaching or Meeting

16:30ish: Admin

Emails, calls, tick boxes, errands, etc etc

Turn my computer off as I say out loud “And now, I walk away”

17:30ish: Sweat

Exercise until I at least sweat

Jiu Jitsu, Strength, Pads, Sprints or Cardio 

19:00ish: Nutrition & Connection

Eat good food

Connect with people I love 

Maybe watch an episode of Futurama or Youtube clip on something random

Right now I love watching documentaries on Koi fish farms in Japan 

20:30ish: Deep Work #3

Practice, Writing, Coaching or Meeting

22:00ish: Progressive Thought

Three questions

One - Best thing about my day?

Two - What am I ready for tomorrow?

Three - What is my MIQ? My most important question to start tomorrow pondering

Phone left charging in the cupboard as I say out loud “And now, I walk away” 

23:00ish: Sleep

Free health care

Weekends 

Connection - Hang out with people I love and feel energised by

Adventures - Yesterday was standing literally behind a gigantic waterfall in the Blue Mountains with a dear friend. Then we went yabbie hunting. I’m 32 years old & I painted my face with mud. 

The point of a schedule is not to build a prison or to feel trapped

Aim to find your own healthy, meaningful and energising balance between chaos and order 

Enough structure to help yourself progress toward meaningful goals

Enough freedom to help yourself be agile with life

If I’m feeling overwhelmed, I scratch things out, and do less than I think I can handle 

And then I start again the next day 

Curious 

Hope this helps

x

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Do Nothing

Once upon a time

I was rethinking auditions

I had four coming up in the following two weeks

And I really wanted the generous wealth associated with those jobs

But

I also deeply wanted to stay in bed and watch my favourite show 

I was enthralled with it

It was taking me on an imaginative journey I simply loved

I felt so alive watching it (ironically)

So I had a little think

What if I

Just for the next two weeks

Ran a little experiment

What if I did nothing?

I mean

What if I did as little as possible to get the job?

Now

This needed some clear planning

Because in order for me to do nothing

I had to be clear and honest about what nothing actually looked like for me

So I began combing through all the shoulds

What are the stories I have been telling myself?

What are all the things I think I should do in order to get the job? 

Let’s start small

Do I need to learn lines?

I remember the time during a call back when a director said to me

“Mike, no-one ever got the role because they knew the lines”

But I grew up on Shakespeare

I went to NIDA during the years of the great Kevin Jackson shouting passionately

“THE WRITER IS GOD”

So to let go of the lines feels really scary for me

I feel naked without them

Solutions?

I could maybe just hold the script and make up some dialogue in the room?

I mean

As long as it’s honest and connected 

I’ll be fine

And if worse comes to worse

I can write out my dialogue on a big piece of paper and kindly ask the reader to hold it in front of their head

It’s only for two weeks

Okay

Next

Do I need to get dressed?

Brush my hair?

Mmm 

Why?

Has anyone ever got the job because of the costume they wore in the audition room?

Maybe

But for the kinds of jobs that I actually want?

I mean

What do I actually think is important?

What do I actually think is worth working towards?

What actually means something to me?

What are the performances that light me on fire?

Do they have pretty clothes or gorgeously kept hair?

Nope

For me

It’s all about honest eyes

Someone pulling their heart out of their chest

Holding it vulnerably out to the world

Allowing us to see into their wounds through the glassy windows of the soul

That’s what I love seeing more than anything

That to me is worth working towards

That to me is worth staying up late for

Missing meals for

Forgetting to go to the bathroom for

God I forget how much I love this craft sometimes

Okay 

Keep going

It’s just a two week experiment 

But I feel strange about not looking clean and perfect

I grew up in South Africa

I went to a very “old school” school

They only got rid of the cane when I was six years old

And walking down the school halls at the age of seven

If I didn’t say “good morning, Sir” and take my hat off 

One particular teacher would pull my ear and lift me onto my tippy toes

“Are you forgetting to do something, Mr Sheasby?”

His voice would boom

Must be perfect

Must be polite

Must show respect to elders 

Again

It’s just a two week experiment

Lean in

Ugh this is uncomfortable

Take a breath

Keep going buddy

What do I actually need to do?

I don’t really need to learn lines

I don’t really need to make myself look perfect

What else don’t I need to do?

Let’s keep stripping it back

What is acting?

Start again

As always

Let’s boil it down to the essential component of living

Death

That’s a downer

But it provides meaning

The meaning of life for the majority of Homo Sapiens’ experience has been survival 

Because it was so incredibly difficult

For the last two hundred thousand years

A small scratch could mean bye bye

Side note - how amazing was the introduction of penicillin?

And that wasn’t even a hundred years a go!?

Wow

Michael

Concentrate 

Next

What was an essential component that allowed humans to survive?

Connection

Connection meant working together, safety and security 

Connection between humans allowed us to go from the bottom of the food chain, to the top

Connection = Survival

Next

What has been an essential component in helping humans connect?

Stories

Meaningful stories

Sharing meaningful stories

Stories helped us connect, which helped us survive 

Meaningful stories = Connection = Survival

How do we share meaningful stories?

Stick to basics 

Write, Sing, Dance, Paint, Act

This is where acting comes in

Acting can be a tool, a vessel  to help share meaningful stories

Acting = Stories = Connection = Survival

So what is essentially required from acting in order to be effective?

Well

I think it has to ignite the mirror neurones in order for it to effectively be meaningful

To help the tribe actually be moved, feel something, laugh and cry, learn

But, how does one ignite the tribes’ mirror neurones? 

Ahhh

By igniting mine!

It has to ignite something internally for me 

Make it human

Human

I don’t mean the species

I mean make it vulnerable, alive, present, real, dangerous, loving, messy

Human

What else?

Every scene starts and then ends

It’s a moment in time

That’s it

A Moment

How about we just go with that for now

Human

Moment

Acting is about giving a human moment

Give a human moment = share a meaningful story = help the tribe connect = help humans survive

Boom

My version of nothing

I need one tiny thing to help make my work human

And I need one tiny thing to help make my work have a clear moment

(I’ll save sharing those two little things for another time)

Fear is coming up again

What about all the other technical work I should be doing? 

The things I learned from decades of training?

Slow down

It’s just a two week experiment 

But what if I ruin my reputation in those two weeks?

Do something to get black listed from casting rooms?

I was late for Kevin Jackson’s class once

ONCE

One time after three years of practice

He turned to me quietly and said

“It only took one ice-berg to sink the Titanic”

Haha!

I miss drama school

I miss the family I had there

The trust that was built by being vulnerable and looking silly in front of my class mates

Over and over again

Every day

For three years straight

With that same group of artists

How fortunate

Take that lesson buddy

Keep being willing to look silly

Besides

It’s just for two weeks

And if it’s done with love

With an honest pursuit of craft and curiosity 

You will be held by the tribe 

Be willing to do nothing

Be willing to step off that ledge

And follow your curiosity 

… 

So off I went

I’de watch my show with a big smile

Until the wee hours of the morning

Fall asleep when my body told me it was time to rest

Wake up half an hour before my audition

Jump out of bed in my white long-johns

Put my Ugg boots on

Hop on my motorcycle

Ride to wherever the audition was

Grab the sides on my way into the room

(On one occasion I did quickly write the dialogue on a big piece of paper for the reader to hold) 

And I’de try my best to give a human moment

Then I’de say thank you and scurry out

Jump back on my motorbike 

And go clamber back into bed

To continue watching my show

The results?

Out of the four auditions I had during those two weeks

I got two

And was the director’s choice for the third

The fourth one I never heard back from

Curious 

What are my thoughts looking back on this experiment years later? 

I’m glad I did it

Because it really reframed things for me

Made me see things in a different light

All the shoulds

All the work I felt I had a duty to do in order to simply give my work

Let’s get to the point

As I write this I’m giggling

The irony is

I put a hell of a lot of work into doing nothing

There was a lot of thought, planning and execution 

But more so

There was a lot of energy required to lean into the fear of doing things differently

Doing them in a way which made my body feel like It might get kicked out of the tribe

I guess that’s where the self care & kindness comes in

The listening to the body

The following of curiosity 

The asking of meaningful questions

What is actually important to me? 

Where is beauty in my life?

What makes my body feel energised and alive?

Where is wonder for me?

What makes me feel enchantment?

What is worth doing?

What is worth doing less?

What is my version of doing nothing?

What gives me meaning for my short little time on this soil?

Curious 

Hope this helps

x

PS - I do not condone riding a motorcycle in the city wearing pyjamas and Ugg boots. Please be safe.

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Do Less, Better

When I graduated from drama school

I tried to distill everything I had learned into one single word document

As simple and clear as I could make it

I had a list of approximately 200 “important” points

Two hundred

Which meant anytime I had an audition or job

I felt my duty was to tick every single one of those 200 boxes 

In order to build a good character

So I could feel like a good actor

And get my gold star for the fridge

Now

When I actually got an audition or job

I would block out every day I had available in order to prepare

Buy a case of red bull (I was 21)

Lock myself away in the garage

And apart from bathroom or sleep

Refuse to come out until I felt like I had done everything I needed to do

Can you guess what kept happening?

No surprises here

I would get to the 3rd or 4th day

My adrenaline dump from getting the role would have worn off

And my lack of sleep, rest, nutrition would have caught up to me

Dreams would meet reality

And I would fall over

“Body says no”

But

I would’ve only done about 5 - 10 of my 200 “important” tasks!

What followed was the valley of despair

I would spend the rest of my prep time feeling like a failure

I should be working harder

I should be all out obsessive

I should be doing everything to make this work extraordinary 

I would eventually rock up to set feeling tired and scared

And spend the majority of time thinking about the other 190 things I didn’t do

Thinking about how I should be more prepared than I actually was

Thus 

I stayed in the zone of “not good enough”

Now

When I look back at this time

I see a beautiful intention

I really wanted to give great work

And feel validated in an industry I loved

Pretty normal desires for a hungry young amateur one would think

I just needed a bit of guidance with my approach

An adjustment of the “how”

I had a little think

Got some really great external accountability

And commenced an experiment

I started watching actors

And what I noticed from watching them

Frustrated the living heck out of me

It seemed the better the actor

The less work they did

The actors who wanted to rehearse over and over

Who wanted to ask a hundred questions on set

Who had clearly spent the last week killing themselves with preparation 

Seemed to be a bit poo

And by that I mean they carried an underlying insecurity into their work 

Which came through on the screen

And the actors who rocked up with an Oscar or huge resume of work behind them

Did less

Way less

They had a kind of ease

Or grace

They knew their lines enough

They hit their mark

And they asked a question if it was actually necessary and helpful for the scene to work

And if they made a mistake

They shrugged and did another take without getting flustered or beating themselves up

I thought this wasn’t fair

It looked too easy

I scoffed

“But look at all the work I’m doing”

Hard work equals success right?

Oh? 

No!?

I think I might have been telling myself a story based off my belief systems I acquired growing up

Belief Systems

B.S.

Time for another experiment

What if a did less?

I don’t mean from 200 down to 20

I mean 200 down to 2

Two things

What if I experimented with only allowing myself to do two things in order to prep for an audition or job?

Okay

Obviously I need to learn my lines

Hang on

What about that time I apologised to the director in that call-back for not knowing my lines perfectly

And he replied with 

“Mate, shut up, no-one ever got the role because they knew the bloody lines”

Maybe that’s just my B.S. too!?

Ugh

Alright

Start agin

Clean slate

I know nothing

Now

From this place…

What do I actually need to do?

In order to get where I actually need to get?

So I can give what I actually need to give?

Do. Get. Give.

Since graduating from drama school

The jobs I am proudest of

I have done the least amount of work on

I still read that sentence and think “how does that make sense?”

I’m guessing a huge part of it

Is based around the idea that the key to not caring

Is being very clear and honest about what you do truly care about

So… the key to doing less work

Is being very clear and honest about the work that is actually worth doing

Which allows for work to become far more sustainable

I feel safe and strong in knowing that what I actually need to do is taken care of

Which opens me up to play 

Something else I have noticed…

Giving up on trying to do everything 

And only doing one single thing really well

Builds a muscle

Your body gets to feel what it’s like to experience good work

Even if its just one tiny, minuscule moment

But that experience compounds

And if you can learn to do one tiny thing very well

You can learn to replicate the formula

It will bleed into other areas of your performance

And life 

So

Lets play “would you rather”…

Looking at your acting process

Would you rather do 10 things averagely?

Or do 2 things bloody well?

Quantity vs quality

Amateurs do lots

Pros do less

But the few things they actually do

They. Do. Well.

My point?

Do less

And do it better

Hope this helps

x

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The Magic of Quadrant Two

Once upon a time

I was house sitting

Not just any house

This was an off-grid cabin

Positioned on the side of a steep green mountain 

Which overlooked the ocean in the far distance

I had a Great Dane puppy to care for

As well as four peacocks

Two alpacas

And a bunch of chickens & guinea fowl 

It was my version of heaven

But at the time

I was pretty miserable

It had been a rough year

I felt like I was wasting my time on this earth

My intentions to work hard were met with the reality of me feeling exhausted and unmotivated

And anytime I wanted to just rest & relax

I spent it feeling like I didn’t deserve to

Then I turned a page in a book (literally) and found something 

The Eisenhower Matrix 

It’s a very simple way of categorising the things you do

Four Quadrants

#1 - Important & Urgent

#2 - Important & Not Urgent 

#3 - Not Important & Urgent

#4 - Not Important & Not Urgent 

If you need a visual example: https://www.bishophouse.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/Effective-Personal-Management-with-Covey-The-4-Quads.pdf 

Okay

Why would this be important?

Well

If I can measure things

I can build awareness

And if I have better awareness

Then I can make better choices

Bingo

Think about the things you do

Social media, watching the news, practicing, being in nature, managing finances, playing playstation, exercising, meditating, complaining, journaling, charity, gossiping, Yoga, class, studying, washing the car, eating good nutrition, holidays, eating junk food, family time, date nights, travelling, fishing, sleeping, checking Bitcoin, reading, working, rehearsing, building side hustles, emailing, cleaning, swiping, laundry, groceries, going out with great friends, going out with de-energising people, idol time, scrolling, thinking about things which are out of your control, sitting on the loo, etc etc etc

Put them in the box you think is most appropriate 

Be as uncomfortably honest with yourself as you can

Now

Here’s an interesting question

Which quadrant do you think top performers prioritise?

When I first did this exercise, my instinctual response was Quadrant #1

Things which are most important and need to be done immediately, right?

Nope

This quadrant equals stress, burnout, fatigue and feeling unmotivated 

So where do top performers aim to spend most of their time?

Quadrant #2

Important & Not Urgent

Things which you value most

And can be seen as an investment of your time rather than something you need to scramble to get done

Some possible examples of Quadrant #2 activities…

Meditating

Journaling

Meal prep

Quality training/practice

Getting quality guidance 

Spending time with people who you feel energised around

Calling people you love

Having difficult conversations

Helping others

Date night

Sitting in nature 

Dancing like you did when you were 5

Exercise

Afternoon nap/rest

Etc etc

What do you value most & doesn’t actually need to get done by the end of the day or week?

What do you know will steer you toward the future you would like to build for yourself?

What will help you put your head on the pillow at night feeling proud/grateful?

You get the picture

This is for you to decide 

Have fun experimenting with this

Maybe that 30 minutes of Simpsons is very important to you?

You do you boo boo!

Now, what to do about the activities in each of these categories? 

#1 - Important & Urgent = Learn to manage them well

#2 - Important & Not Urgent =Learn to prioritise them well

#3 - Not Important & Urgent =  Learn to delegate them well

#4 - Not Important & Not Urgent = Learn to delete them.

I got a shock when I put pen to paper on this one

I realised there was a pretty big difference between who I thought I was and where most of my actions were actually spent

I’ll leave you with a question I love exploring…

What is actually worth rushing for?

Hope this helps

x

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Advice on Auditioning Confidently

“Hey Michael. So I have a pressing question you might be able to help me with. I’m being flown out to xxxxx for a final casting of a feature film. This will be the first for me A) coming this far for a film, B) being in the room with a casting director (because of covid, all other auditions have been self tapes/zoom). Any advice on navigating the room and just making a fun, open impression on the casting directors and the film director? Irrelevant if I get the part.” - S

Hey mate!

Thank you for clicking send 

Lets do this

Celebrate

Firstly

Fucking pat yourself on the back

I don’t mean the idea

I mean physically celebrate 

We work too damn hard and make too many damn sacrifices to not let ourselves enjoy these little wins 

Give yourself permission to celebrate 

Do a gangsta boogie in your room

Go ride a bicycle with a boom box 

Call someone ya love

Buy that damn ice cream!

Done?

Great

Moving on

Build Confidence

I want to just flag something you have mentioned

“Irrelevant if I get the part”

Beautiful work mate

I hear you loud and clear

Let go of any results here and get focussed on process

Why?

There’s a very important point to be made here…

Obviously, focussing on the results will decrease our ability to play and feel free  to follow impulses in the moment

Thus decreasing our presence 

Thus decreasing our performance 

Bla bla bla

Sure sure sure

But there is something else…

I can train someone and teach them technique until the cows come home

But at some point

The artist has to go out there onto the stage 

And pull the trigger when the time is right 

What’s going to give them the ability to go from the skills they’ve learned

To execution under pressure

Is confidence 

Building that confidence is key to elite performance 

And the single best way to build confidence 

Is to take away the innate fear that we all have of bad outcomes that makes us naturally risk averse

So how do we take away the innate fear of bad outcomes?

Lean into it

Quick story

I was working with the great Carl Ford (Susan Batson’s son)

He had just finished a session with the actor who plays Joey in the sitcom Friends (I forget his name)

I said, “damn, I would’ve thought that guy knows how to break down a scene”

Carl replied

“Mike, no one pays me to break down a scene

They pay me because they are afraid of failing

They simply want me to give them permission to go give everything when it counts most”

(PS, as he was saying this, Naomi Campbell was sticking her head through the door, annoyed that Carl was going overtime with me, as she wanted her session of “permission”)

My point?

Acknowledge & accept your fears, and let them go

How?

Options…

Book a great coach

Get curious - write down what you’re most afraid of and why

Go step out of your comfort zone 

Do wholesome shit that scares you 

Dance freely in public

Walk up to a stranger and start a conversation

Have that difficult conversation you’ve been avoiding

Write your eulogy

Accept death

Remember…

No matter how shit or amazing the audition goes… eventually you will die and no one will ever remember you even existed on this earth :) 

Seriously

I don’t even know my great grandparents’ names

That was only 100 years ago

This too shall pass

So fuck it

Do it your way

Do it with love

Desired Experience 

When most people come to me for help with an audition

And I ask them how they want it to go

They usually tell me exactly how they don’t want it to go

This is normal and great

Brain and body trying to keep us safe and avoid discomfort :)

What I want you to do is get a pen and paper

And write out how you would like the entire experience to go

Write in first person & present tense (I am, I feel, etc etc)

Remember to keep focussed on things you CAN control

Write out how you feel when you wake up 

Before you walk in to the room

How you want to feel when playing and rehearsing the scenes with your colleagues (director and CD)

What things are important to you in that room (listening, being honest, focussing on the other person, etc etc)

Keep it simple, honest and clear

Focus on whats actually important to you

Write out how you will handle any fear that pops up during the process

Just use your imagination and walk yourself through the entire experience you dream of having

How do you want the day to go????

Process

Do what you gotta do, to get where you gotta get, so you can give what you gotta give

Now…

You’ve celebrated

You’re building your confidence

You’ve walked through your dream audition experience

Now?

Do the fucking work

Build a very simple process to practice over the next week

Do LESS than you think you can handle, and do it well

Better actors do less, which allows them to do those few things better

How do you build a process?

Start at the end

Write out how you would like to feel when you put your head on the pillow at night after your audition that day

Then work backwards

What do you need to do in order for that to happen?

KEEP IT SIMPLE STUPID

(To help you create a dynamite process, please read https://www.michaelsheasby.com/sam-aug-9)

Example

  • 3 most important technical questions to answer to make the scene work (Objective, Why, Environment, bla bla bla, whatever works for you)

  • Book 1 hour with a great coach

  • Do a 30 min warmup on the morning of the audition

  • Run lines with someone you trust for 20 minutes an hour before

  • Play music in headphones

  • Etc etc

Whatever man

Just build a short and sweet process that you can go experiment with

Then afterwards, you can review it, see what worked well, and think about what you’re ready for on the next one. 

Rather than leaving it as a wishy washy “i’ll just go feel it duuuude”

Trust me

Even Shia is anal about organisation, prep, coaches

The image of artists just going with the flow is cute

But reality is different

Great artists have great processes

One last thing

It’s up to YOU to take care of yourself this week

That’s your responsibility

Great actors are fucking kind to themselves 

(There is nothing weak about kindness)

Being more generous toward yourself allows you to give more generous work to society

So rest, eat, hydrate, exercise, connect, laugh, play, get groceries, do laundry, call someone you love 

Take care of you

& let me know how ya go ;)

Sheasby

x

(If you have a question you’d like me to answer, just email me at info@actorsblueprint.com)

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What would your mentor say?

I was on the couch last night dreaming about asking someone I greatly admire for guidance 

I would love to spend a full week with them

For them to hear my background

Observe my habits and routines

Be a fly on the wall for my process 

Call out my blind spots

Answer my questions

And quell my concerns

But this person I’m thinking about

Is, right at this very moment, most likely in a basement in Austin, Texas, USA

With a bunch of sweaty people

Coaching them to be the best in the world in the art of unarmed combat 

So, realistically, it might be a pretty big ask to have them follow me a round for a week :)

But is it necassry?

This morning

I woke up and opened my A5 notebook

And asked myself one question…

What guidance would x give me? 

If they were to look me in the eye, over a cup of tea 

And give me clear, honest, and actionable advice?

I was quite surprised by what they said…

Hope this helps

x

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Acting, Cows & Fear

I spent New Years Eve in a barn

A two-day-old orphaned calf wasn’t taking to the bottle

I was 90% sure we would lose him by sunrise 

So my mate and I spent the night taking turns sitting in the straw trying to coax the little guy to feed 

It was a quiet time to reflect on the past year

What were the best things about it, what I was ready for in 2022, etc etc.

Surprisingly 

During the night

Rufus began to suckle

And by the time morning arrived

He was guzzling down a litre at a time

It was pretty special to see the life come back into the small creature 

To watch him rise up on his gangly little legs and begin to bellow 

However

(And I won’t go into too much bovine husbandry detail here)

Due to Rufus’ lack of mommas milk within his first 6 hours of life

His body doesn’t have the greatest defence

Which means it could be a tough 6 months ahead 

There is a high probability he will get sick 

So he’s going to need a little extra care in kicking this year off

A little TLC when it comes to maintaining his health and building a stronger immune system

It’s just the way it is

Sure…

It feels a little frustrating

It feels a little unfair 

And there is a part of me which even feels a little afraid 

(plenty of “what if” thoughts popping up)

But facts are facts

So…

Time to grow

Fact: I don’t know how to raise an orphaned calf well

Here is a skillset which I would like to get better at

So I think it’s an important time for me to ask myself two questions

Firstly

Do I believe I can get better at this skill?

Secondly

How do I overcome the fear required for me to get better at this skill?

I love this second question…

Because it brings up a non-negotiable

In trying to improve myself at something

I will be stepping out of my comfort zone

And that means fear is guaranteed to raise its head 

(thank you brain & body for trying to keep me alive) 

There will be moments

Where despite my intentions, focus, tenacity, willingness 

I will feel afraid

And I will most likely have some thoughts, feelings and physiological reactions which make it uncomfortable for me to keep going

Making it easier for me to seek comfort and distract myself with pleasure rather than doing what will make me fall asleep with pride & gratitude

So the question then becomes…

If I want to be good at something which I believe is important,

How will I manage myself and my fears moving forward?

Curious

Here’s to 2022

& thank you for the reminder, Rufus

Past Year Review

An exercise I love doing around his time of year…

An adaptation of Tim Ferris’ Past Year Review

    1. Five minutes - write down the most energising moments of 2021. (What experiences, moments, work, things, people, etc etc, gave you the most joy, excitement, fulfilment, love, etc etc)

    2. One minute - circle the top 20%. (Example; if you had 20 things, what were the 4 that gave you the most energy?)

    3. Five minutes - write down the most de-energising moments of 2021. (What experiences, moments, work, things, people , etc etc, were the most draining?)

    4. One minute - circle the top 20%. (Example; if you had 20 options, what were the 4 that you found drained you the most?)

    5. Now, taking these noticings into 2022, attempt to replace the de-energising with the energising (book it now, schedule it now, pay for it now)

Voila!

Hope this helps

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Keep Process-ing

I’m currently working on a show

And in this show

There is an actor

One of the most generous actors I know

Every time this actor gets up on stage 

The level of commitment they have in conveying the text in a truthful manor is simply astonishing

Regardless of the writing, audience, cast, director, weather, private life dramas, exhaustion, or time of day

This actor gives everything

Over, and over, and over again.

Last week

I was feeling tired

I decided to go sit out in the theatre and watch the dress run

This actor walks out onto the stage 

Honest

Listens 

On cues

Drives the scene

Commits to stakes

Simply steals the show

Then

Walks off

And 30 seconds later

To my surprise

I get a text

“How was that first scene? What do I need to work on?”

For one of the most generous actors in the world

It never stops

Process process process

Keep process-ing 

Hope this helps

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Take Care Of Your Older Actor

Think of yourself 

I mean your older self

Think of the actor you have become 50 years from now

Sitting on a bench

Watching the horizon 

Smelling eucalyptus trees in the breeze

Hearing bees dance between flowers in the warm air

When they are looking back at their career…

What are they feeling proud of?

What are they feeling grateful for?

What are they regretting not having done? 

Are they surrounded by loved ones?

Do they wish they had worked more?

Do they wish they had worked less?

Do they wish they had worked differently? 

Have they built meaningful relationships?

Do they have great colleagues they laugh with?

Do they wish they had sung and danced more?

Do they wish they had put on more sunscreen?

Are they grateful for all the adventures they have gone on?

Are they financially stable?

Are they financially free?

Do their joints ache?

Do they feel fulfilled?

What has the industry taught them about their craft?

What has the industry taught them about training?

What has the industry taught them about working?

What has the industry taught them about making mistakes?

What has the industry taught them about things like wealth and health?

Do they live where they want to?

Do they spend their time worrying about things out of their control?

Do they breathe deeply whilst focussing only on things they can control? 

What has the industry taught them about achieving meaningful goals?

What has the industry taught them about giving up?

What has the industry taught them about making hard choices?

What are their thoughts on the career they’ve had?

What would you say to them?

What guidance would you ask from them?

What kind of listener are they?

I bet they listen with care

And love

If they had their old wrinkly hand on your shoulder right now

What would they say?

I bet they look at you with a cheeky smile, knowing they are about to give some very no-bullshit advice

So that you can go make them proud

Go take care of your older actor

Hope this helps

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Build An Actor

We are all going to die one day 

So in the meantime

Build towards something worthwhile

Build an actor 

An actor who is honest

An actor who is clear

An actor who takes action

An actor who follows their curiosity 

An actor who contributes meaningful work to the world 

An actor who focuses on what they can control, and lets go of what they can’t 

An actor who takes care of their inner child

An actor who is brave enough to be vulnerable

An actor who knows it might hurt, but who still tries anyway 

An actor who practices self care

An actor who is able to find comfort in the chaos

An actor who manages their energy sustainably 

An actor who listens to their body

An actor who greets their colleagues and asks them how they are

An actor who knows when to switch on, and when to switch off 

An actor who is generous enough to know when it’s time to be selfish 

An actor who takes care of their health and wealth

An actor who takes care of both the younger and older versions of themselves

An actor who gives themselves permission to feel what they’re feeling 

An actor who trusts themselves, even when they have no idea what’s going on 

An actor who says “yes, please” & “no, thank you”

An actor who knows how to wait well

An actor who knows how to rest well

An actor who takes responsibility for their professional relationships

An actor who has the difficult conversations 

An actor who knows when to ask for help, and then does so

An actor who knows when to offer help, and then does so 

An actor who is kind when they fall over

An actor who gives themselves permission to give up once in a while 

An actor who knows when it’s time to get back on the horse, and then does so 

An actor who makes intelligent, adaptive progress

An actor who makes sacrifices 

An actor who falls asleep feeling proud and grateful 

An actor who helps others breathe easier

This is worth building 

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Three Skills To Foster

3 Skills to Foster

What are the 3 most important skills for an actor to foster?

One.

Self awareness

“You have to know yourself, so you can use yourself” - Heath Ledger

Two.

Deep work

“Who you are, what you love, what you think, feel, and do - is the sum total of what you focus on” - Cal Newport 

Three.

Inner child

(A healthy integration of your inner child into your adult life)

It is the most valuable currency you have & it is what separates you from the rest

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Why Bother?

For most of human existence 

The meaning of life was very simple 

Survive

Why?

Because it was so bloody difficult 

A human being

On its own

Is a feeble creature

A soft and vulnerable thing

But together

We have survived

How?

Connection

Connection allowed us to go from near the bottom of the food chain

To the top

Now, what helps build connections?

Stories 

Meaningful stories 

“Doug went to waterhole. Lion at waterhole. Lion ate Doug. Don’t go to waterhole” - Karen, the cavewoman 

“Thank you, Karen. The rest of us will now survive today” - Joel, the caveman

Why is this important?

Because nothing has changed

The best in the business

Still do the exact same thing

They share meaningful stories 

They help humans connect

They help the group survive 

So…

Why bother?

Bring it back to something of importance 

Help others survive

Help others connect 

Share meaningful stories 

Let’s break this down even more

What are ways in which we could share meaningful stories?

We could be a writer, director, producer, cinematographer, grip, assistant, comedian, etc, etc

Countless different ways

But lets focus on acting

Lets break down the craft of playing dress ups 

An actor provides a character within a context 

Acting = Character + Context 

Character = Human

Context = Moment

Therefore… 

An actor helps share meaningful sotries by providing human moments 

Now…

Lets help ourselves put our heads on the pillow feeling proud

Lets make small, progressive steps toward meaningful goals 

Lets get good at sharing a human moment 

  1. Build competence at being a human in front of the lens (or on stage)

  2. Build competence at being that human within a given context

Hope this helps

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Quote I’m Considering

“As actors, it is our responsibility to read newspapers, and then say what we read on television like it’s our own opinion”

- Team America, World Police

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Be Here Now

Principle #8: Be Here Now

Game Day

Time to fly

All the prep

All the work

Done 

Now

Time to give

Time to release

Time to play with peers 

On cue

Repeatedly 

Take after take

(or show after show)

All the work we do as artists

The training

The auditioning

The research

The preparation

Is funnelled down to one simple moment

The curtain rises

Or the camera has a little light which glows red 

And someone says the last words

“Go”

“Action”

“When you’re ready”

Or, if you’re as demanding as Brando during the filming of The Score

The director will say these phrases using Miss Piggy’s voice (true story)

The last theatre show I did at the Opera House

I was fortunate to work with an incredible director

This person fostered the careers of actors like Sir Ian McKellon, Sir Patrick Stewart, Alan Rickman, etc etc

Many of the UK giants

I asked him

“Richard, you have worked with some of the greatest actors of the last century, is there one trait they have in common?”

He took a moment

And in his exquisite accent, replied

“They all have the ability to be here now… which makes them bloody dangerous”

Be here now

To trust the work has been done

And simply be present

Easier said than done

We can do all the homework, prep and planning in the world

But it doesn’t mean much unless we open up to what’s actually going on around us

Exercise: Game Day

Requirements: Paper & pencil, some private time, maybe some music, tea/water etc etc 

Step 1. Set the timer for 15 minutes: Journal the most energising experiences you’ve had on set/stage & explore what you did which made them energising.

Step 2. Set the timer for 10 minutes: Notice the commonalities between those experiences. What are the shared underlying principles or actions you took? 

Step 3. Set the timer for 2 minutes: Clarify how you would like to feel putting your head on the pillow after coming home from a day of giving your work on set or stage.

Step 4. Set the timer for 3 minutes: Write down your dream Game Day process for you to experiment with. Try keep it between 3-7 clear, doable points. Then repeat the 3 minute process. And finally, repeat the 3 minute a third time.  See how it morphs and grows with each iteration. Build something which you feel energised about. Build it your way.

Curious to hear how you go with this one :)

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Do What Ya Gotta Do

Principle #7: Do what you need to do, to get where you need to get, so you can give what you need to give 

Phone rings…

“Hey, you got the job” 

AWESOME

Goes to corner store

Buys an ice cream

20 minutes later

Oh crap… 

Now what?

How do I translate the short audition experience into weeks or months of being on set or stage?

Okay

We got two points

Point A: Receiving the news you got the job

Point B: The night before the first day of shooting

Everything we do between these two points… 

This is our Game Plan

Sometimes, we have months to prepare

(For Shakespeare’s Henry V, I had 9 months)

Sometimes, we only have a few days to prepare 

(I was driving through the Utah Desert and got a call saying…“Hey, that BBC job you auditioned for 6 months ago? Yeah, you got that, so you need to be in New Zealand with a Scottish accent in 6 days time… Okay? … Mike? … Michael?”)

On many occasions, I have experienced huge overwhelm when it’s come to preparing for a gig

And overwhelm = inaction

When I left drama school

I had a list of around 200 things I told myself I needed to do in order to prepare like a good boy

I would do about 10 before falling over from exhaustion and not know how to move forward

I would then rock up to set and only think about all the stuff I didn’t get done in time 

Every moment would be filled with the anxiety that I hadn’t done enough

And thus, the whole thing was a fairly miserable experience

It took me a little while to see things in a different way

What did I figured out from watching Oscar winners prepare?

Firstly

Do a few things only… but do them fucking well

Secondly

Real pros practice self care

They know how to get stuff done whilst being kind to themselves

(Nobody wins from you beating the shit out of yourself)

So lets make a simple Game Plan

Do it well

And go play

:)

Exercise: Game Plan

Requirements: Paper & pencil, some focussed private time, maybe some music, tea/water etc etc 

Step 1. Set the timer for 15 minutes: Journal the most energising experiences you’ve had preparing for a job & explore what you did that made them energising.

Step 2. Set the timer for 10 minutes: Notice the commonalities between those experiences. What are the shared underlying principles or actions you took? 

Step 3. Set the timer for 2 minutes: Clarify how you would like to feel putting your head on the pillow the night before you start the job.

Step 4. Set the timer for 3 minutes: Write down your dream Game Plan process for you to experiment with. Try keep it between 3-7 clear, doable points. Then repeat the 3 minute process. And finally, repeat the 3 minute a third time.  See how it morphs and grows with each iteration. Build something which you feel energised about. 

One last thing

Please

Take that goddamn moment to celebrate getting a job in this industry 

Share it with people you love

Give yourself permission to enjoy the journey

A dear friend called me on Saturday to tell me she just got a US series

It made my bloody weekend

Nothin better than seeing someone you love work well toward a goal

And getting to share the joy along the way 

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Game Of Opportunities

Principle #6: Surrender to the game of opportunities 

Opportunities 

Auditions, self tapes, call backs, meetings, chemistry reads, test deals, etc etc 

Opportunities to give our work professionally 

From getting the news we have the opportunity

All the way through to putting our heads on the pillow after we’ve done it

Sometimes, It can be a long and arduous process

Other times, it can be a short and intense rollercoaster 

But there is a massive elephant in the room here worth acknowledging…

As an actor, I cannot control the decision of casting

Yes, I can influence it

But I cannot control it

There is a huge amount of angst in this industry coming from the simple fact that we do what us humans are so good at doing…

Trying to control things we can’t

And how bloody understandable!

We give decades of time, energy and effort to this craft

And we get an opportunity which could mean the chance to play generously + pay rent

And then someone decides no, because… 

Well… who wants to start counting the infinite reasons why someone gets cast over another?

Sidenote

I have sat in on casting processes before

I once watched a guy get cast over another because on the tape his hair seemed curlier & he had “somewhat of a sadder smile”

The job was for a major US network, negotiated at US$55k per episode… for 25 episodes per year… for 5 years

And the decision was made as we sat having a beer on the couch 

Oh the games 

However…

We have a choice

We can continue to try control something we can’t 

Or, we can choose to surrender

The choice to stop fighting

To take that beautiful energy being spent on trying to control the un-controllables

And give it towards something we can

Our process 

And what’s glorious and terrifying about that…

Is it requires a leap of faith

To say to oneself…

I give up

I give up trying to control the things I can’t

I will focus, instead, on playing

On creating a meaningful, sustainable and joyful process

I will stop chasing results

And instead

Allow the results to come to me

How bloody vulnerable

So lets surrender 

And lean into the process of opportunities 

A question worth pondering…

How can I make it easy for these people to hire me?

Think about it from the their point of view

If I was a director, producer or casting director

And I was trying to find my dream actor to cast in a role

I would want a few things done well

  1. Competence - Can they contribute well to this story & do it on cue?

  2. Professionalism - If we are going to spend months working together… can they rock up on time, hit their mark, whilst being kind and respectful?

  3. Trust - Do they trust themselves enough to take care of themselves (sometimes that means knowing when to ask for help!)

So let me turn my attention onto those things which I can control…

Being damn good

Being professional

And trusting myself

Exercise: My Opportunity Process

Requirements: Paper & pencil, some focussed private time, maybe some music, tea/water etc etc 

Next: Choose an opportunity category you would like to work on.

(For the following example, I will use the category of self tapes - as they have recently surpassed auditions as the most common form of opportunity)

Step 1. Set the timer for 15 minutes: Journal the most energising experiences you’ve had self-taping & explore what you did that made them energising.

Step 2. Set the timer for 10 minutes: Notice the commonalities between those experiences. What are the shared underlying principles? 

Step 3. Set the timer for 2 minutes: Clarify how you would like to feel putting your head on the pillow after giving a self tape for a job you really want.

Step 4. Set the timer for 3 minutes: Write down your dream self-tape process for you to experiment with. Try keep it between 3-7 clear, doable points. Then repeat the 3 minute process. And finally, repeat the 3 minute a third time.  See how it morphs and grows with each iteration. Build something which you feel energised about. 

One last thing

In case I haven’t made it clear enough already

There ain’t nothing weak about surrendering 

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Practice Better

Principle #5: Practice better

Practice makes progress

One of the few things we can control in our industry

Is the ability to get better

And the better we get

The more of ourselves we can give to the stage or camera

Some important factors…

First: Intention

Why am I going to this practice session?

Is it to work on a particular skill set?

Is it to practice under pressure?

Is it to get a support from a colleague or coach?

Is it to practice giving yourself approval?

Is it to make new colleagues?

Is it to simply feel like you are a part of the industry?

Etc, etc

All wonderful intentions

My point is

Simply be clear about why you are spending your time, energy and dollar on the session

The more you are aware of why you are going to the session

The more choice you have in what you get out of it

Second: Time & Place

Allocate a clear time and environment

Spend 6 hours fluffing around in a de-energising distracted environment?

Or spend 45 minutes in a focused, engaged room? 

Third: EA

External accountability 

Who am I training with?

Who am I asking for help, education and guidance?

Do I feel energised or de-energised after the session?

I have found some commonalities between the people I love asking for EA…

They have growth mindsets - they replace good, bad, right, wrong thinking with curiosity 

They focus on the process - rather than the result

They play the long game - building a sustainable process > short term results 

They encourage me to do me - “you do you boo boo”

They don’t steal my lesson - they let me figure out the lesson on my own (maybe with the occasional nudge here and there)

They trust themselves enough to be silent and allow for space

Fourth: Distractions

Phone calls, emails, technology, interruptions, people, singing parrots, etc, etc

Remove them for the allocated time slot

And get shit done

Exercise: My Practice Process

Requirements: Paper & pencil, some focussed private time, maybe some music, tea/water etc etc 

Step 1: Set the timer for 5 minutes - Identify your most important problem (MIP) - What are the most important skills to work on which would give you the biggest step forward in your craft/career? 

Step 2: Set the timer for 5 minutes -  Identify the most energising practice experiences you have had.

Step 3: Set the timer for 5 minutes - Notice the commonalities between those sessions. What did you do which made them energising? 

Step 4: Set the timer for 2 minutes - Identify how you would like your dream practice session to feel at the end. 

Step 5: Set the timer for 3 minutes - My Practice Process: Write down a practice process for you to experiment with. Try keep it between 3-7 clear, doable points. Then repeat the 3 minute process. And finally, repeat the 3 minute process again. See how it morphs and grows with each iteration. Build something which you feel energised about.

Throughout the steps, notice the shoulds and bring them back to the wants (are you doing it that way because you want to, or because you feel like you should do it that way?)

And finally, remember to ask yourself

What would it look like if it was easy?

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Find Comfort in the Chaos

Principle #4: Find comfort in the chaos

Here’s a question…

Do you want a life with no storms?

Or

Do you want to be able to ride out the storms?

There is a bottleneck in this industry 

Actor’s who can handle the storms of pressure move through the bottle neck

Stop

I really don’t like the sentence I just wrote

Do I think it’s actually true?

Nope

I have gotten main roles on TV shows when I literally was shaking in the audition in front of the director

So overwhelmed with nerves 

And sometimes I haven’t even made it past the first round of casting when I have felt I was the coolest cucumber to grace the planet

So what are we actually talking about here?

Back to the biggest bad ass of the 80’s

Mike Tyson 

Here’s some footage of him feeling terrified and crying before a fight (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mKjK95aRrhc)

Now, what was that famous thing his coach said?

“The hero and the coward both feel the same thing, but the hero uses his fear, while the coward runs. It’s the same thing, fear, but it’s what you do with it that matters.”

How can I still go play and give my best work even when I’m feeling under pressure?

Let’s boil this down to one fundamental concept: Notice & Bring it back

Notice what?

Notice the dissonance 

Dissonance = A lack of harmony in the mind/body 

You know that moment when you’re feeling nervous and your body and mind start doing different things?

(Tight throat, sweaty palms, stiff neck, raised heart beat, cloudy mind, negative thoughts popping up, woozie tummy, etc etc)

Basically, when we start to protect ourselves from a perceived threat to our survival…

Let’s put them under the umbrella of “dissonance”

Side note

There is a requirement here

In order to notice the dissonance

You have to listen to your body

Obey nature

She will always win in the long run

So listen to her 

What signals is she giving you?

Listen to them

Notice the dissonance 

Then what?

Bring it back to process

What process?

Well

What process do you want to have?

Make it up!

You get to choose

Whatever you want

Try different things

See what works for you

I’ll point you in a direction to get you started

One: Shift your physiology 

Work outside in

Do something physical to affect your brain chemistry

Move

Shake

Jiggle

Stretch

Dance

Sing

Pray

Bath

Jump in the ocean

Walk in nature

Exercise

Sweat

Sit in an ice tub

Have a cold shower

Do a breathing exercise

Yoga Nidra

Breath of fire

Wim Hof

Doesn’t matter what it is

Pick what works for you

What’s important is you shift your physiology

Two: Acknowledge & Accept where you are (give up on where you think/feel you should be)

I find Roy London’s Personal Inventory exercise really helpful

90 seconds of saying…

“I feel x, I feel y, I feel z”

Say what is so for you

Remember, it’s not what you’re feeling that causes issues

It’s judging those feelings which allows problems to arise

Ie, “I’m feeling nervous, and thats a bad thing”

There’s another important fundamental here of replacing a fixed mindset with a growth mindset

Fixed mindset: “Good, bad, right, wrong”

Growth mindset: “Curious, what is this telling me? What can I learn from this?”

Three: Clear your RAS (Reticular Activating System) 

Help your brain help you

Be clear about what you want

2 simple questions to help you get clear

One: How do you want to feel at the end?

(Example: I feel proud of myself)

Two: What’s one action step to help you sustainably get there?

(Example: I am honest)

Okay

If I don’t stop now I will go down 23 more rabbit holes

I’ll leave the rest for the EBook

But to summarise

Create your own process for handling pressure

Turn it into a ritual

Freaking out in the trailer and only have 10 minutes before you’re needed on set?

Know your call to stage is happening in 5 minutes and feeling like you’re about to vomit? 

About to step into the producer’s room for the final casting meeting and feeling yourself doing the fakest smile ever witnessed in the history of all mankind? 

No problemo

Notice it

Then bring it back to process

  1. Shift your physiology (mooooooove)

  2. Acknowledge & Accept where you are (give up on where you “should” be)

  3. Clear your RAS (help your brain help you)

Then go do you booboo 

Hope this helps 

Feel free to send me any questions as this is a massive topic that I love discussing :) 

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Behave Like a Pro

Principle #3: Try behave in a way which helps you sleep proudly

A helpful goal is one which reveals clear and immediate actions

It takes the imaginative future and brings it into the present

Using last weeks exercise: My Beautiful Day (https://www.michaelsheasby.com/sam-jul-12

We are going to ask ourselves one question…

“How does that version of me behave?”

Simple

The industry will reflect your behaviour

It can act like a mirror 

And sometimes we won’t like what we see in the mirror

Most actors will let their behaviour be dictated by the industry

Make the choice to go first

Real pros don’t wait for permission or a pay check to behave the way they want

So lets remove the “when I / then I”

(“When I get the big Netflix gig, then I will behave like a pro”)

Exercise: Behaviour 

Step #1: Allocate some private, uninterrupted time to scribble

Step #2: Paper, Pencil, Music maybe? 

Step #3: With reference to My Beautiful Day - Ask yourself: “How does that version of me behave?”

What action do they take?

What choices do they make?

What sacrifices do they make

What decisions do they make?

What difficult conversations do they have?

What habits do they have?

What rituals do they have?

Try keep this exercise as free flowing as possible

No editing or judging

Just write until you let it all out

Let it surprise you

Let it flow wherever it goes 

Step #4: Action

Choose 1-3 of the behaviours you have scribbled

Apply them now

If that means putting it in the calendar

Sending that email 

Paying for it upfront

Whatever it is… do it now

I’ll give some examples

I’ve been incredibly fortunate to work with some artists at the top of our field

Here are some of the behaviours I witnessed which inspired me to make some changes

They rock up on time

They know their lines

They greet people will kindness

They are ruthless about their 30 seconds before a take

They give everything in-between “action” & “cut”

They continue to study and learn with great mentors and coaches 

They take their time

They are honest, even when its uncomfortable to do so

They have the difficult conversations

They stay hydrated 

They ask for help

They know their worth 

They speak their truth

They protect their character

They play

They understand their characters function within the story

They are able to switch their focus on and off 

They work hard, and they rest hard

They treat themselves with self care 

They take care of their health 

They take care of their wealth 

They know everyones name on set

They give themselves permission to feel what they are feeling

They keep going

Etc etc etc

Im curious what behaviour you have witnessed which has inspired you?

so…

Set yourself up to win

Have a brainstorm of how your best self behaves

Then try behave that way 

And slowly begin to feel your spine grow taller 

(Side note: There is a reason I have included the word try)

Hope this helps 

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Secret Sauce

Principle #1: Your inner child is your secret sauce, use it wisely

The more prestigious the acting coach

The less time they have for bullshit

$60 per hour?

“What’s your objective?”

$600 per hour?

“Tell me about your inner child”

Want to be the lead on set?

Lead roles are reserved for more generous actors 

So be more generous 

And what’s the most generous thing you can give that no one else can?

That makes you completely unique in a sea full of bland pleasers?

You

The real you

Your inner child is the most generous thing you can give

It is your secret sauce 

It will carry you sustainably throughout your career 

Look at your heroes 

Look at the top performers in any field

This is what they do well

So begin the process of integrating your inner child into your adult life 

So you can give a real piece of yourself when contributing your work to society

However

There is a sacrifice to be made

There is a price to pay

It costs something to give the real you to the world 

Fear will raise its wonderful head

All the fascinating ways you learned to survive and protect yourself from the hurt and pain of this life

Be kind and careful with what shows up

The following work is for you, and no-one else

Step #1: Find a favourite picture of yourself as a child, preferably before age 6.

Step #2: Give them a name which resonates with you. Maybe a nickname people called you at that age.

Step #3: Put the picture somewhere you will see it every day

Your inner child is the cornerstone of your work moving forward 

This will become clear as we go

Trust me

Better yet

Trust your inner child

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Start at the End

Principle #2: To begin, start at the end

I spent some time a few years ago doing a holistic management course with farmers

The room was filled with old cockies who wanted to change the way they were working with nature 

There was one exercise which I have never forgotten

When they were asked to write down what they wanted

(In order to build a plan to help them get there)

They wouldn’t do it

Pages sat blank

Grown ups turned into infants 

Emotions ran high beneath stoic postures 

Eventually, one farmer said:

“What if I write it down and it doesn’t happen?”

Bingo

In the years I have spent passing work onto artists

I have seen it over and over again

The avoidance to honestly and clearly state what someone really wants

To say it out loud

To see what it looks like on a piece of paper

As if letting it out into the world means something other than what it does

This is simply one step in the process

A step which will help the rest of the process flow

Start again

What’s your harbour?

Where is the place you would like to end up?

Be clear

And be honest 

There are many exercises to help us

Lets just use one

Simple & effective 

To begin

We start at the end

Exercise: My Beautiful Day

Step #1: Put aside a day. Clear it in the calendar. Communicate with any potential interruptions that you will be offline that day. 

Step #2: On the day, turn all technology and distractions off. If you want to change your environment in order to feel more energised and focussed, do so.

Step #3: Pencil & Paper. Water. Music maybe? 

Step #4: Begin writing. 

Ten years from now

It’s July 2031

Write your day

Your beautiful day 

From waking up to falling asleep 

From pillow to pillow

Anything you want

Write the day your inner child would be proud of 

What does your life look like?

How does it feel as you wake up?

How does it feel to place your feet on the floor beside your beside?

Where are you living?

Who are you living with?

What kind of home are you in?

What does your furniture look like?

What is your bed like? 

What are your sheets like?

What kind of clothes do you wear?

What kind of vehicle do you drive?

Children? Friends? Family? 

What do you want?

What are you reading?

What are you making?

What excites you?

What adventures are you going on?

What is your health like?

What is your wealth like?

What is your education like?

What skills are you working on?

Who are you sharing life with?

What are your relationships like?

What is your career like?

What is your day filled with?

What fills you with energy?

Where do you give your energy?

How does it feel to put your head on the pillow at the end of it all? 

The more care and detail, the better

Write this one day

This one beautiful day

Ten years from now 

Dream big

Dream without fear

Put your whole heart into it 

Write like your life depends on it

Because it does

You don’t have to share this with anyone, its’s just for you 

Then we can use this to make a plan

But thats for next week 

Some notes…

They are called hidden gems for a reason

They are hidden

Your job is let it all out

Let your subconscious take you where ever it goes

No editing or judging

Let rip

Permission to dream on steroids 

Find writing specific things too overwhelming? 

Just stick to principles and values

You get to create anything you want - It’s just a piece of paper 

And remember, at any point, if you don’t like it

Start again

Hope this helps 

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